6 Reasons We're Not the Right Officiants for You
Updated: Feb 23
Now that you found your favorite person ever to spend your days with, it’s time to round out your wedding day dream team! Since you found yourself here, you’re probably trying to figure out if we're the right wedding officiants for you. Let us help you out!
Maybe you’re wondering if we’d vibe together and if we'd make your ceremony vision a reality. So, it might seem odd that we tell you all the ways we're NOT the right ones for you, but sometimes it’s easier to say how we won’t mesh instead of listing out all the ways we will.
Take a look below for six reasons we shouldn’t swipe right.
1. YOUR WEDDING CEREMONY IS NOT ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT PARTS OF YOUR WEDDING DAY
We get it! Maybe for you - it’s the food, the music, or the photography. Those are all important pieces that make up your wedding day and it’s great that you know what matters most to you.
But, of course, we are incredibly biased and 1000% believe that your wedding ceremony is THE most important part of your day. It’s the moment you’re OFFICIALLY MARRIED! It’s where you stare into each other’s eyes, hold each other’s hands, share your love for one another, and commit to being there for each other no matter what life may bring. So if your ceremony isn’t one of the most important parts of your wedding then chances are we won’t work out.
Good times with great peeps is THE ABSOLUTE BEST!
2. YOU'RE LOOKING FOR A TRADITIONAL CEREMONY
Looking for the whole: “Dearly Beloved, we are gathered here today” ceremony style? We are NOT your peeps. Maybe you’re looking for a somber and serious occasion? That’s definitely NOT us.
We are all about working with you to imagine creative twists on rituals and give a nod to tradition, sure. But we are most-definitely not your grandparents’ wedding officiant. In our book, wedding ceremonies are a CELEBRATION OF YOU, a fun and meaningful experience! It’s supposed to KICKSTART THE PARTY; not be something your guests have to ‘get through’. Your wedding day oughta be an EPIC day full of laughter, love, and warm hugs! So, if you’re looking for something other than that - we’re not a good fit.
This cracked us up to no end, but only because we're assuming the poor kid was bored to sleep!
3. YOU WANT A RELIGIOUS CEREMONY
While I, Daniela, went to Catholic school all through my elementary and middle school years, I am far from religious! I consider myself an ever-evolving, always-learning student of life. Spiritual, I guess? But definitely not devoted to any particular religion.
Unusually though, I’m incredibly comfortable with interfaith weddings! Weird, right? That’s probably because every interfaith wedding we’ve been lucky enough to officiate gave a nod to religious traditions that felt true to the couple without overt religious tones or prayers to one deity or another. Ya see, invoking God’s name feels strange coming out of our mouths, unless we're saying something like “Thank, God”, "Oh My God", or "Please, God". So, if you’d like a religious ceremony, chances are a minister, reverend, rabbi, or ayatollah in your congregation would probably be a better option for you.
OH MY GOD, we love interfaith weddings!!!
4. YOU DON'T WANT YOUR STORY INFUSED INTO YOUR CEREMONY
Maybe you’re very private and don’t feel comfortable opening up to a complete stranger about your love story. We get it! Maybe you’re looking for a standard civil ceremony, like the City Hall 60-second ones with no frills or personal details - just the gist. Cool!
The thing is that we're the kind of wedding officiants who need to hear the ins and outs of your journey. Everything from how you met, what marriage means to you, what annoys you about each other, the things you love to do together, and on and on and on. The more you share, the easier it is for us to write a personalized wedding ceremony infused with your flavor that feels every bit like you. But if that doesn’t feel quite right, a judge at the Marriage Bureau is probably more up your alley.
You have a story unlike anyone else's and we want to share it! Maybe even sing it?
Nah, we can't sing. Unless we're singing with the radio, then we're total super stars!!
5. YOU HAVE A TIGHT BUDGET & ARE CUTTING COSTS WITH THE CEREMONY
We feel you! Weddings can be crazy expensive, even if you DIY lots of it. So when we hear couples say that we are outside their budget, we REALLY get it. We remember planning our own weddings a long time ago, before Pinterest or Instagram even existed, and we had to figure out where to cut our costs. Not fun!
This reason is intertwined with reason #1 in lots of ways. Ya see, many couples will spend a pretty penny on the venue, the photographer, and the cake forgetting that their ceremony is just as important. Or even more so, in our opinion. In reality, your wedding officiant will probably be the least expensive vendor on your dream team but if that’s where you choose to cut your costs - we are not the right officiants for you.
Some of us have budgets, Prince William!
P.S. We are not old-school vow kinda peeps. The more real, the better!
6. YOUR VALUES DON'T ALIGN WITH OURS
We hold onto progressive values that center love stories which have historically and perpetually been denied by society and our government. Inclusion, representation, and true diversity is important to who we are at our core and where we stand. We love celebrating and centering ALL love stories; we're honored to celebrate and center yours.
Steph and Lena are among our favorite TV wifeys and moms. We deserve to see more QTBIPOC love stories, like these.
If any of these six reasons DON'T resonate with you, then THANK YOU SO MUCH for stumbling into our little corner of the interwebbed world and CONGRATULATIONS on marrying your favorite person! We know you’ll find the right wedding officiant for you, but we're not it and that's perfectly okay.
On the other hand, if you’re a non-traditional, fun-loving couple who's totally feelin’ our vibe, chances are we're gonna feel yours too and WE CAN'T WAIT TO MEET YOU!
Can you tell, we like GIFs?!