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5 Reasons We're Not the Right Officiants for You

January 10, 2018

Now that you found your favorite person ever to spend your days with, it’s time to round out your wedding day dream team! Since you found yourself here, you’re probably trying to figure out if we're the right wedding officiants for you. Let us help you out!

 

Maybe you’re wondering if we’d vibe together and if we'd make your ceremony vision a reality. So, it might seem odd that we tell you all the ways we're NOT the right ones for you, but sometimes it’s easier to say how we won’t mesh instead of listing out all the ways we will.

 

Take a look below for five reasons we shouldn’t swipe right.

 

1. YOUR WEDDING CEREMONY IS NOT ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT PARTS OF YOUR WEDDING DAY.

 

We get it! Maybe for you - it’s the food, the music, or the photography. Those are all important pieces that make up your wedding day and it’s great that you know what matters most to you.

 

But, of course, we are incredibly biased and 1000% believe that your wedding ceremony is THE most important part of your day. It’s the moment you’re OFFICIALLY MARRIED! It’s where you stare into each other’s eyes, hold each other’s hands, share your love for one another, and commit to being there for each other no matter what life may bring. So if your ceremony isn’t one of the most important parts of your wedding then chances are we won’t work out.

 Good times with great peeps is THE ABSOLUTE BEST! But shouldn't your ceremony take the cake too?

 

 

2. YOU'RE LOOKING FOR A TRADITIONAL CEREMONY.

 

Looking for the whole: “Dearly Beloved, we are gathered here today” ceremony style? We are NOT your gal. Maybe you’re looking for a somber and serious occasion? That’s definitely NOT us.

 

We are all about working with you to imagine creative twists on rituals and give a nod to tradition, but we are most-definitely not your grandparents’ wedding officiant. In our book, wedding ceremonies are a CELEBRATION OF YOU, a fun and meaningful experience! It’s supposed to KICKSTART THE PARTY; not be something your guests have to ‘get through’. Your wedding day oughta be an EPIC day full of laughter, love, and warm hugs! So, if you’re looking for something other than that - we’re not a good fit.

This cracked us up to no end, but only because we're assuming the poor kid was bored to sleep!

 

 

3. YOU WANT A RELIGIOUS CEREMONY. 

 

While I, Daniela, went to Catholic school all through her elementary and middle school years, I am far from religious! I consider myself an ever-evolving, always-learning student of life. Spiritual, I guess? But definitely not devoted to any particular religion.

 

Unusually though, I’m incredibly comfortable with interfaith weddings! Weird, right? That’s probably because every interfaith wedding I’ve been lucky enough to officiate gave a nod to religious traditions that felt true to the couple without overt religious tones or prayers to one deity or another. Ya see, invoking God’s name feels strange coming out of my mouth, unless I’m saying something like “Thank, God”, "Oh My God", or "Please, God". So, if you’d like a religious ceremony, chances are a minister, reverend, rabbi, or ayatollah in your congregation would probably be a better option for you.

OH MY GOD, we love interfaith weddings!!! 

 

 

4. YOU DON'T WANT YOUR STORY INFUSED INTO YOUR CEREMONY. 

 

Maybe you’re very private and don’t feel comfortable opening up to a complete stranger about your love story. We get it! Maybe you’re looking for a standard civil ceremony, like the City Hall 60-second ones with no frills or personal details - just the gist. Cool!

 

The thing is that we're the kind of wedding officiants who needs to hear the ins and outs of your story. Everything from how you met, what marriage means to you, what annoys you about each other, the things you love to do together, and on and on and on. The more you share, the easier it is for us to write a personalized wedding ceremony infused with your flavor that feels every bit like you. But if that doesn’t feel quite right, a judge at the Marriage Bureau is probably more up your alley.

 You have a story unlike anyone else's and I want to share it! Maybe even sing it, Glee-style?!  

Nah, we can't sing. Unless we're singing with the radio - then we're totally alt indie rock pop stars!!

 

 

5. YOU HAVE A TIGHT BUDGET & ARE CUTTING COSTS WITH THE CEREMONY. 

 

We feel you! Weddings can be crazy expensive, even if you DIY lots of it. So when we hear couples say that we are outside their budget, we REALLY get it. I, Daniela, remember planning my own wedding over a decade ago, before Pinterest or Instagram even existed, and we had to figure out where to cut our costs to have the wedding of our parents’ dreams. Aye! But that’s a whole other blog post!

 

This reason is intertwined with reason #1 in lots of ways. Ya see, many couples will spend a pretty penny on the venue, the photographer, and the cake forgetting that their ceremony is just as important. Or even more so, in our opinion. In reality, your wedding officiant will probably be the least expensive vendor on your dream team but if that’s where you choose to cut your costs - we are not the right officiants for you. You can find our ELOPEMENT and CEREMONY rates on our site.

 Some of us have budgets, Prince William!

P.S. We are not old-school vow kinda peeps. The more real, the better!

 

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If any of these five reasons resonate with you, then THANK YOU SO MUCH for stumbling into our little corner of the interwebbed world and CONGRATULATIONS on marrying your favorite person! I know you’ll find the right wedding officiant for you, but I’m not it and that's perfectly okay.

 

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On the other hand, if you’re a non-traditional, fun-loving couple who's totally feelin’ our vibe, chances are we're gonna feel yours too and WE CAN'T WAIT TO MEET YOU! If you want to learn more about us, check out OUR CREDO and who we're GIVING BACK to this quarter.

Can you tell, we like GIFs?! 

 

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Thanks for hangin' out with me in my lil' corner of the interwebbed world! Y'all are fan-frickin-tastic with a side of awesome sauce!

Abrazos (aka HUGS),

Daniela VillaRamos

NYC & Destination Wedding Officiant