Vow Inspiration: Josy + Gunnar from Love is Blind Germany

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For those of you who watch trash reality TV, you’ve probably seen Love is Blind on Netflix. Right now, Season 10 is airing and the one couple who this show was truly made for was barely highlighted. 

Like many of you, reality TV romance is my guilty pleasure and Love is Blind happens to be one of my faves. Or it used to be. Season 8 was the final season I watched and now I only review the reaction videos. Seasons 9 and 10 are infuriating on many levels. Not only has the cast become less diverse, they seem to choose emotionally immature people (ahem…men) who aren’t ready for marriage and refuse to take accountability for their harmful impact. 

All that to say that I decided to give season two of Love is Blind: Germany a chance. It played in the background while I did some tedious, back-end small biz work. But I was hooked the moment I clocked those real, deep, emotionally mature conversations. Each couple, including the ones who didn’t make it to the altar, were refreshing!

If you’ve seen the season, you’ll know that Josy and Gunnar are the kind of genuine souls you rarely see on reality TV anymore. When they both shared their vows during their wedding ceremony, I was in tears. Especially with the rawness in Josy’s wedding vows. As a reminder, the original language of this series is German so this is simply the translated version.

Gunnar’s Vows

“We both started this journey without any major expectations or hopes. When we got to know each other, it became quite clear that on the surface, we barely had anything in common. We hardly share any hobbies or interests. And quickly we faced our first serious issues. Issues that were big enough to break us. And that scared me. But it was in those moments when we chose to grow and lay the foundation for today and for our future.

I got to know someone who is honest. Honest with her feelings, honest with her fears, and honest with me. I know that sometimes you’re not sure if you deserve love. You deserve every bit of a love a person can possibly get. And I want to be the man who gives you that love everyday. And I promise you that I will do everything everyday to make you feel loved.”

Josy’s Vows
“The first time I heard your voice, I had no idea how much you’d change my life. Even though we hadn’t seen each other, you had already seen me. You’d accepted all of me. You accepted my directness, my doubts, my insecurities, and my question marks. And you embraced them. Embraced them with your gentle ways, your confidence, your unshakeable certainty, and gave me answers to my questions.

Sometimes I think I’m too much. Too much pain. Too many scars. Too many cracks. Like something in me is broken. So broken that no one could ever love all of me. But you listen to me, took my hand, and faced the world with me. Then you looked me in the eyes with boldness and absolute certainty and told me that, to you, I’m the most whole person in the world. And, in that moment, you healed something in me.

Not with your words, but with your love, your presence, your truth. With you, I can be myself. I can be whole. I love how much you love me but more than that I love how much I love you. You are my home, my anchor, my adventure, my moon, my soulmate. Forever.”

Tearjerker, right?! The beauty of their vows lies within their vulnerability and Josy’s vows, in particular, hits home. Especially, as women and people of color with multiple intersectional identities living under this white supremacist patriarchy, many of us have felt like too much and not enough at one point or another. Enjoy their wedding vows as vow inspiration for your own and watch the season if reality TV romance is your jam.

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